What percentage of my salary do I pay as child support? - Children's charity hell (2023)

Hey guys, no, what do you think of these garbage bags? I almost committed suicide last March. They have asked me to owe them money in many ways. How can this be possible if my ex works full time and I pay him £100 a week on his account? I set up the business through CSA and they all agreed so they said I never paid him anything. I still have the bank statements that he made over 4700 in 8 months while working in England. He sells the house for 350,000. He got money from his uncle when he broke her clogs. He sold my car. I lost my job and now he's trying to break me up again. I'll kill myself there if you don't go. She chose this path, not me. She lied. he lied the courts are corrupt and so is the government and the scum in it when people like us oppose the government and demand they justify what they do we can achieve something i also think 20% of their income rubbish weekly are garbage bags once and for everything thank you take care

I started paying CSA four months ago, first payment was £800. After that I'm paying £370 a month. If I leave my job voluntarily, is there any action the CSA can take? Before I paid my ex CSA, they drove around in old cars, now I pay them a lot of money, they bought a Chrysler Cruiser, they all sang and danced. They don't need a car, so he only uses it for work, about 20 miles. I looked up the specs on the car and it's 28mpg and over £200 in road tax. I don't feel like I can keep working.

Isabel dice:

David I'm sorry to hear you're paying so much but look at it from a mother's point of view you have to pay 3701 a month which doesn't even cover what it costs for a child to feed the cloth a roof having to keep the heater on your head in the home and anything else growing children need. I agree that they may not need such a big car, but I have 4 children. I had to buy a new S-Max because I am disabled and need space for my wheelchair.
However, if you just left work, you still have to pay child support, and if you change jobs, as the CSA calls it, you will lose your passport, driver's license, etc. When I start working again you will get Lose 40% of your salary, a friend of mine just got arrested for 2 late payments that wasn't even his fault, his mother lives abroad and was dying so he he went to spend the last of his weeks money with her. he took a leave of absence without pay and went to his house to ask for an arrest warrant.
What parents often forget in this process is the effect it has on the KIDS, first David you are pathetic if you would rather kill yourself than pay the CSA. I would hate to be your poor children, how do you think this will work out? I'm sorry, oh my father killed himself instead of paying mother some money for our upkeep. What kind of father would say such a thing?

Natasha Tasker dice:

What a thing to say...certainly if you helped bring these children into this world you have to pay your share...10 years later and I'm still waiting...it's just your children who without you, selfish man, will Iran !

j dice:

"What percentage of my salary will I pay for child support?" - EVERYTHING THAT?

But seriously, tell me Natascha, what exactly is "...your part..."? –

"Natasha Tasker on Feb 19, 2013 at 4:30 p.m.

What a thing to say... no doubt, if you helped bring these children into this world, you have to pay your share... 10 years later and I'm still waiting... it's only your children who will leave without you, a selfish man!

Regarding your scathing comments, Elizabeth: "Elizabeth on 7th September 2012 - first time David, you're pathetic if you'd rather kill yourself than pay the CSA. I'd hate to be your poor children, how do you think that will make them feel, oh, my father committed suicide instead of paying mom some money for our upkeep.”

How about "my father committed suicide over the crippling and unfair demands of an out-of-control government agency"? Do you know how many parents have committed suicide as a direct result of a CSA intervention? More than sixty! Were they all "pathetic"?

Not only the men are affected, the women who are in the PRN are also harmed by this dirty and disgusting organization!

When I got divorced (two kids, one each) my working ex didn't give me anything and the CSA did nothing to help me, but when my oldest left home and I got a job they took everyone for more and more weeks until that I felt better! If they had taken a "reasonable" amount, I would have stayed at work.

So if some people "hide" behind the mantra "It's your kids who are suffering" blah blah blah, remember the CSA has put people out of work THIS is WHY kids are suffering!

carolina dice:

I am disgusted with any man (or woman) who refuses to pay child support, or who envy him. For 12 years I have been fighting to get minimum support from my ex-husband, who has tried in every way to hide his money and assets all over the world just so he can pay to help out on a daily basis. daily maintenance of his three sons. He earns more than £70,000 a year and has a net worth of more than £500,000, but has done his best not to pay. Although I worked hard (sometimes 80 hours a week) to make ends meet, when I became seriously ill and had to stop working, my children and I were left homeless: my ex cheated on the CSA for years until the I threatened to call them to court for ignoring the evidence that they had not collected the money owed. We didn't live in an expensive house, an old council house that I bought when my marriage ended. I didn't get a penny from the divorce because I was threatened with physical violence if I tried to object to anything. My ex just left the town we lived in without telling the kids first - lovely guy!

Anyway, the bottom line is that I finally got the CSA to seriously pursue him for the minimum required and he still refused to pay, until they threatened to sue, even now his back pay is minimal and every month they have to hunt him down. down for a paycheck.

To parents who complain about having to support their children, I am disgusted - it is not a luxury, it is money to live. We were left homeless and my children were almost arrested just because he did not pay what the law required. My health has suffered greatly from all the stress - my three children were the most affected! Any man who believes he has been abused by the CSA is nothing more than stupid, uncaring parents who clearly believe they owe their children nothing and the rest of the world owes them!

My children were left home at night with no food on the table, no clothes for school, no heat, and most importantly, watching their mother die as a direct result of years of stress and effort trying to pay the bills, just because his father was his is a selfish, self-pitying pig! He is now forced to pay a reasonable sum each month plus some of the outstanding arrears over a period of ten years; to date he owes more than £30,000 and the CSA still does not account for all of his activities.

I got the last laugh though, while he's mired in his own smug world of pettiness, his three children live here with me and live happily ever after without him, as one of them told me: 'He got it and lost it. All due respect to his three sons who now want nothing to do with him as a direct result of what he did to us!

T dice:

I personally believe that children are the responsibility of mothers and fathers! I understand why men feel the need to quit their jobs/job breaks as they are called, because who really wants to work hard and get only a small fraction of their paycheck? It's a shame when parents shirk their responsibilities, but those who are willing to pay a fair amount will be weeded out by the csa! There are moms out there who also take the mic, claim benefits, work the cash register, and sublet some of their wealth! So there is a good and a bad for both parties, it just depends on your circumstances xx

Harriet dice:

It's really nice to pay CSA with an income where you have enough to save stashes all over the world. What if you are a woman who pays CSAs to a father who is mean to the mother? The mother earns minimum wage or a little more and the father earns more than 40,000 a year, she lives in a house with the daughter, who adored her mother but is afraid of going against her father's feelings. I'm afraid it will never be cut and dried. Many fathers have to live in studios to make ends meet financially, while the mother has a well paying job and owns property. The father is punished for ending the marriage. Or, in the case of the woman I'm referring to, why would she be harassed by her ex, her son, her in-laws, and her CSA?

John dice:

Why does the person with the children receive the money? The money is for the children, clothes, food, etc. So why is the money given to the father who has the children? And anyone who thinks or says "The father wouldn't spend it on himself" is lip service. I saw it and they did it to me.

Team Martin dice:

To all the pathetic women who hang around the CSA.
Greedy bastards. I want you all to die a slow painful death...Fuck it all

bla blooba dice:

All the women here are moaning, they're nuff bastards, she said

Csa-Patient dice:

You know what, he's not pathetic, I'm a woman too and I think bad women use CSA as a tool to cheat on their exes. I've heard many brag about it. If you didn't have kids, you'd need a house, electricity, gas, your car, groceries, and paying your bills anyway. So why would nrp pay a percentage of his salary to money thieves? It doesn't take a percentage of the salary to raise a child, but yes, they do have to pay and unless some women are so crafty and clever, an amicable deal can usually be struck! Today, women think that once they catch a man with a child, the man owes them his livelihood or the rest of his life. he does not! You've decided you want these kids too, so pay your share yourself. It costs about £50 to be a kid, so stop begging and have some fun and have some respect for yourself! Then your ex wouldn't hate you and he would be less inclined to help you!

David dice:

CSA charges me £350 a month for 2 children. I have less than £900 a month left to pay rent, bills, feed and clothe my son with my new partner.

I'm getting more and more in debt, my checking account is maxed out, and I have to decide between paying the bills or buying groceries.

I can not live like this. I spoke to the CSA, who told me some difficult things.

Meanwhile, my ex-partner is away every weekend and spends all my money drinking while my children are dressed in rags and fed Tesco flavored microwave meals.

María dice:

Some of the comments here about moms eager to go to CSA are completely wrong. My ex and I had a mutual agreement for the first 6 months which worked well for him to put money down for our kids every week, then all of a sudden for some reason he chose CSA and ended up paying more! (His problem with him) Now 2 years later he is trying to make a hallway out of it. (silly) I know I'll get my money because the CSA is working hard to track him down, but I can't figure out why he's doing it. My ex left me for someone else. The money he pays is a very small contribution to my rent, council tax, heating, food, clothing, school trips, pocket money, school lunches. I work full time so my kids don't miss out on any of the things my ex and I can offer them while we're together and the money from him is just a bonus but why the hell wouldn't I pay? It takes 2 people to have a baby, so why should only the mother support them? He also has no desire to interact with the girls, although they write to him regularly, which he completely ignores.

John dice:

Every woman clicks on all the benefits available to you and calls CSA because you are mad that your husband left you because you think you deserve everything from him. You use your children for money and nothing else. My mother raised me and three others without my father or his money and we got along well. Get a part-time job when your son is in kindergarten, lazy women, no wonder he's getting fatter, but things are changing with benefits now, so that's a good thing.

Kerry dice:

csa are terrible. . I have been with my partner for 10 years, we have 2 beautiful children, but before being together, he had a girl with her ex.
When he got home, he found out that she had eloped with her little girl (baby at the time). She worked at YTS and a party job to pay for her house just to give her a bath before bed.
He went into a mega depression and she said she wanted nothing from him but to break contact.
My partner adores his girlfriend and wanted to go to court every time she didn't show up when they asked her to make up that he was violent.
After years of depression he met me and we have 2 beautiful children and in 10 years he has never been violent!
We parted ways for mutual reasons and after 10 years the CSA decided it was ok to accept more than 1000 a month, he never wanted to pay for the girlfriend he always offered and his answer was NO.
Now, after 11 years, he has decided to leave CSA, so the weeks before Christmas take most of his salary. Kids, he was devastated.
My family had to finance our Christmas, it was terrible.
After writing to the local MP he went to visit his daughter who is now almost 11 he was very nervous but I told him 'be yourself' and he traveled miles to see her and they understood very well, he explained that he had a brother and a sister and she she was delighted... it was decided that she would visit me a few weeks later, so I told my children that they had a sister. . Then the police said that we abused her mother. Guess what, almost 2 years later, most of her salary is taken by her ex, who lives on a 1.1 million farm. We are in a 3 bedroom and CSA thinks everything is ok? ??
He has suffered all these years for his corrupt enterprise, how many men will still have to suffer for his utter organizational ingenuity?
Seeking legal advice as we can't afford to live, but can she take her wages and live on a million pound farm? I seek justice!

k.fletcher dice:

Okay CSA, can anyone please tell me if CSA says it costs x £s to support a child then why does the government only give around £20 a week benefit per child? I am in dispute with the CSA because they are taking £95 off me. I pay them more than I pay rent (I can't own a house because they would just take it). have a). the kid is now 16 and has a side job in collage and works at a well known fast food chain and i still have to pay,
I'm about to 1 kill myself 2 give up everything and become a salaryman I've worked all my life and now CSA just wants to destroy everything I've worked for CSA I have to stand in line and the men were allowed to live. destroy as they did to us,
I'm not opposed to making a reasonable payment, but all they want is money from us for all the ladies who will say you have to pay that much... what would YOU do if the tables were turned? Would like to know,,,,,

k.fletcher dice:

When you talk to these scoundrels at CSA, tell them what they say when you ask a question. SORRY PRIVACY LAW I'm not legally allowed to give you the information you need and listen to what they have to say...and also tell them when they're done with you that you recorded the entire conversation...they'll go crazy, it serves them well to idiots... I made this and showed it to a lawyer,

G MacDonald dice:

I have been paying for my children's clothes, vacations, etc. for years. I pay 320 direct and they receive 170 direct from their salary, now they want 1150 a month!! Which means I can't pay my bills let alone live, Csa is a joke by an organization that targets men to raise billions for the government.

neil dice:

Greedy pussies steal houses, they don't help you go broke.

Aisha dice:

Maybe they should have stayed together to raise the children. I'm so glad there's alimony because your ex never gave me a dime from the kids during our thirteen years of marriage. I can't wait to get child support.

fuck bitches dice:

Women who put up with that shit are ridiculous shit. Lazy bitches, what happens when a man gets arrested for lying to you about birth control? and why he can't have a say on abortion but you can have a say on how he spends the money he makes, fuck you and your kids, men fuck you, you treat us like a piece of work, no wonder than himself Men killing each other right and left, blamed for everything and hoping to make peace. You shouldn't have power over any man, I bet if you didn't you wouldn't get into the situations you complain about, so fuck you bitches