What percentage of my salary do I pay in alimony? - Hell's Children's Fund (2023)

Hey guys, I don't know what you think about these bastards. I almost committed suicide last March. They asked me all sorts of things and told me I owe them money, how is that possible if my ex works full time and I put £100 a week into their account where I set up the deal through the CSA, and they were all there ok so they said I never paid you anything. I still have the bank statements. He got over £4700 in 8 months when he was working in England. He got money from his uncle when he broke his clogs. He sold my car. I lost my job and now I'm trying to get ready again. I'll kill myself there if they don't get away. Lies, the courts are corrupt and so is the government and the scum in it. When people like us rise up against the government and ask them to justify what they do, we might get a little bit of discretion if you don't cooperate, they'll take you to court and you'll lose the driver's license pass for your home car, they'll get your data banks and will know what else they think about it.

I started paying the house four months ago, the first payment was £800. After that I pay €370 a month. If I leave my job voluntarily, is there any action the CSA can take? Before my ex CSA got paid they rode old pumps, now I pay big bucks they bought a Chrysler Cruiser singing and dancing. They don't need a car like that, he just uses it for work, like a 20 mile drive. I looked up the specs on the car and it's running at 28mpg and over £200 in road tax. I don't feel like I can keep working.

Isabel dice:

David sorry to hear you are paying so much but look at this from a mother's point of view you have to pay 3701 a month which doesn't even cover the cost of a child to feed a roof top to keep up with overhead. keeping the house warm and whatever else the growing kids need I agree they may not need as big a car but I have 4 kids and had to buy a new s max because I'm disabled and room for me needs a wheelchair.
Anyway, if you just quit your job, you still have to pay child support and if you "job hop" as they call it, you lose your passport, driver's license, etc. % of his salary a friend of mine just got arrested for two late payments that weren't even his fault his mother lives abroad and was dying so he went to spend the last few weeks money on her took a leave without pay for that reason and returned home to request a warrant for his arrest.
What parents often overlook in this process is the effect on the KIDS, first of all David you are pathetic if you would rather kill yourself than pay the CSA. I would hate to be your poor children, how do you think? it will make them feel oh, my father killed himself instead of paying my mother some money for our upkeep, what kind of father would say such a thing?

Natasha Tasker dice:

What a thing to say... if you helped bring these children into this world, surely you should pay your share... 10 years later and I'm still waiting... it's only your children who will leave without you!

j dice:

"What percentage of my salary do I pay in alimony?" - ANYTHING?

But seriously, tell me Natascha, what exactly is "...your part..."? –

"Natasha Tasker on February 19, 2013 at 4:30 p.m.

What a thing to say... if you helped bring these children into this world, surely you should pay your share... 10 years later and I'm still waiting... it's only your children who will leave without you! "

As for his scathing comments, Elizabeth: "Elizabeth on September 7, 2012. First of all David, you're pathetic if you'd rather kill yourself than pay the CSA, I'd hate to be your poor children like you think." it will make them feel oh my dad killed himself instead of paying mom some money for our upkeep,"

How about "My father committed suicide due to the crippling and unfair demands of a fugitive government body"? Do you know how many parents have committed suicide as a direct result of CSA's intervention? More than sixty! Were they all "pathetic"?

It's not just the men who are affected, the women who are NRP's are also being harmed by this filthy disgusting organization!

When I got divorced (two kids, one each) my ex worker didn't give me anything and the CSA did nothing to help me, but when my oldest son left home and I got a job it took more and more every week until I got better unemployed. ! If they had only been paid a "reasonable" amount, I would have stayed on the job.

So if some people "hide" behind the mantra "It's your kids who are suffering" blah blah blah, remember the CSA has put people out of work, THAT'S WHY kids are suffering!

carolina dice:

I am disgusted with any man (or woman) who refuses to pay child support, or who resents it. For twelve years I have been fighting to get minimum alimony from my ex-husband who has tried in every way to hide his money and fortune from him all over the world just so he doesn't have to pay day-to-day support. of his three sons. He earns over £70,000 a year and has a net worth of over £500,000, but he does everything he can to avoid paying money. Although I worked hard (sometimes 80 hours a week) to pay the bills, when I got seriously ill and had to stop working, my kids and I were left homeless - my ex cheated the CSA for years until I threatened them with call them to court. for ignoring the evidence that they did not collect the money owed. We didn't live in an expensive house, an old council house that I bought when my marriage ended. I didn't get a penny from the divorce because I was threatened with physical violence if I tried to object to anything. My ex just left the town we used to live in without telling his kids first - lovely guy!

Anyway, the bottom line is that I finally got the CSA to go after him seriously for the required minimum amount, and still he refused to pay, until they threatened to sue, even now, he is his Reimbursement of arrears at the minimum rate and every month having to chase you down for a payment.

To parents who complain about having to support their children, I am disgusted, it is not a luxury, it is a way of life. We were left homeless and my children were almost detained simply because he did not pay what he was legally required to do. My health has suffered greatly from stress: my three children have been the most affected! Any man who thinks he's been hit hard by CSA is nothing more than a self-pitying, indifferent, idiotic father who clearly believes that he owes nothing to his children and the rest of the world owes them!

My children have no food on the table at night, no clothes for school, no heating in the house, and on top of that, they had to watch their mother die as a direct result of years of stress and struggle to survive just because! his father is a selfish, self-pitying pig! He is now compelled to pay a considerable sum each month plus some of the outstanding arrears over a period of ten years; to date he owes more than £30,000 and the CSA still does not take into account all his assets.

I got the last laugh though, while he's entangled in his own smug world of pettiness, his three children live here with me and are living happily ever after without him, as one of them told me: 'He brought this on himself. and got everyone. He lost the respect of his three children, who now want nothing to do with him as a direct result of what he did to us!

T dice:

I personally believe that children are responsible for both mothers and fathers! I understand why men feel the need to quit their jobs/job-hopping, as they call it, because who really wants to work that shit and receive only a small fraction of their paycheck? It's a shame when parents shirk their responsibilities, but whoever is willing to pay a decent amount gets the CSA! There are moms who are also taking the microphone by claiming benefits, working cash and subletting some of their property! So guys, there's good and bad on both sides, it just depends on the circumstances xx

Harriet dice:

It's really nice to pay CSA with an income where you have enough to stash stashes all over the world. What if you are a woman who pays CSAs to a father who is mean to the mother? The mother earns minimum wage or a little more and the father earns more than 40 thousand a year, living in a house with her daughter, who adored her mother but is afraid of going against the father's feelings. her. I'm afraid it never cuts and dries. Many fathers have to live in beds to survive financially while the mother has a well paying job and owns property. Is the father punished for the breakdown of the marriage? Or, in the case of the woman I'm referring to, why would she be persecuted by her ex, her son, her in-laws, and her CSA?

John dice:

Why does the person with the children receive the money? The money is for the children, clothes, food, etc. So why is the money given to the father who has the children? And anyone who thinks or says, "Parents wouldn't spend on themselves," is talking nonsense. Seen and let me do it.

Team Martin dice:

To all the pathetic women who go through the CSA.
Money hungry bastards. I wish you all had a slow and painful death... Damn.

bla blooba dice:

All the women here complain, they say that the scoundrels are zero

csa patient dice:

You know what, he's not pathetic. As a woman, I think angry women use CSA as a tool to prank their ex-boyfriends. I've heard many brag about it. If she didn't have children, she would need a house, electricity, gas, her car, food, and to pay her bills, so why should the NRP pay a percentage of her salary? It doesn't cost a percentage of salary to raise a child, but yes, they must pay, and if some women weren't so deceitful and cunning, a mutual agreement can usually be reached! Women today think that once they catch a man with a child, the man owes them his livelihood or the rest of his life. He does not! He has decided that he wants those children too, so pay your share yourself. It costs £50 tops to be a kid, so stop begging and blabbering and have some self respect! Then your ex wouldn't hate you and he would be less willing to help you!

David dice:

CSA charges me £350 a month for 2 children. I am left with less than £900 a month to feed and clothe my rent, my bills and my son with my new partner.

I'm deep in debt, my checking account is maxed out, and I have to decide whether to pay the bills or buy food.

I can not live like this. I spoke to the CSA who told me some difficult things.

Meanwhile, my ex-partner is gone every weekend and spends all my money going out drinking while my kids are dressed in rags and subsisting on tasty Tesco microwave meals.

María dice:

Some of the comments here about moms making money going to CSA are completely wrong. My ex and I had a mutual agreement for the first 6 months that went well that he would deposit money for our kids every week, then all of a sudden for some reason he decided to go to the CSA himself and ended up paying more! !! (their problem from him) now 2 years later he is trying to turn them into a runner. (silly) I know I'm going to get my money because Csa is working hard to track him down, but I can't figure out why he's doing this. My ex left me for someone else. The money he pays is a very small contribution towards my rent, council taxes, heating, food, clothes, school trips, pocket money, school lunches. I work my shit full time so my kids don't miss out on any of the things me and my ex could have given both of us while we were together and his money is really just a bonus but why the hell wouldn't he pay? he. It takes 2 people to have a baby, why should only the mother take care of them? He doesn't want any contact with the girls either, despite the fact that they write to him regularly, which he is completely unaware of.

John dice:

Every woman is demanding every benefit available to you and you call the CSA because you're angry, your husband left you because you think you deserve everything from him, you use your children for money and nothing else. My mom raised me and three other people without my dad or his money and we got along great. Get a part-time job when your kid is in kindergarten, lazy women, no wonder you're getting fatter, but now things are changing with benefits, so that's a good thing.

Kerry dice:

csa are horrible. . I have been with my partner for 10 years, we have 2 beautiful children, but before being together he had a girl with her ex.
When he got home, he discovered that she had run away with her little girl (a baby at the time). She was working a temp job for YTS and Pary at the time to pay for her house. When things hit rock bottom, she would travel 10 miles, if not more, to her mother's house just to bathe them before bed.
He went into a mega depression and she said she didn't want anything from him but she wanted him to end contact.
My partner loves his girlfriend and every time she didn't show up she wanted to access justice, when she was questioned she realized it was violent.
After years of depression he met me and we have 2 beautiful children and in 10 years he has never been violent!
We parted ways for mutual reasons and after 10 years CSA decided it was ok to accept more than 1000 a month, he never wanted to stop paying for the girlfriend he always offered and his answer was NO.
Now, after 11 years, he's decided to go to CSA, so weeks before Christmas, they keep most of his salary. He was left with nothing 200.00. He had to leave his house and return with me and the children, he could not afford his house, gifts for children, he was devastated.
My family had to finance our Christmas, it was terrible.
After writing to the local parliamentarian, she was allowed to visit her daughter, now almost 11 years old. He was very nervous but I told him "Be yourself" and he traveled miles to see her and they got along great. She explained that she had a brother and a sister and that she was in love with her. She made up her mind that she would come visit us a few weeks later, so I told my sons that they had a sister. .so the police said we abused his mother ..guess what almost 2 years later most of his salary goes to his ex who lives on a farm of 1.1 million we are in a 3 bedroom apartment and the CSA think that's ok ? ??
He has suffered all these years in his corrupt company, how many men have not suffered in his sheer intelligence of organization?
Seeking legal advice as we can't afford to live, but can she take her wages and live on a million pound farm? I seek justice!

k.fletcher dice:

Ok CSA can anyone tell me if the CSA says it costs x £s to support a child then why does the government only give child support around £20 a week? I have a dispute with the csa about how they take 95 pounds off me. I pay them more than I pay for rent (I can't have my own house because they would just take it). Please remember that I have it. I do NOT participate in the birth. The certificate had never been DNA-done (she refuses to have one). the kid is now 16 and in college part time and works at a well known fast food chain and i still have to pay,
I am about to 1 commit suicide 2 give up everything and become an unemployment benefits administrator I have worked all my life and now the CSA wants to destroy everything I have worked for too the CSA should line up they and the men who can destroy their lives how they destroyed ours,
I'm not against making a reasonable payment, but all they want is money from us for all the ladies who will say, well you have to pay that much, what would YOU do if the tables were turned against you? Please answer me, I would like to know, ,,,,

k.fletcher dice:

When you talk to these scoundrels from CSA, tell them what they're going to tell you, when you ask them a question, tell them, also tell them when they're done with you, that you recorded the whole conversation,,,,, they're going to freak out, serve you motherfuckers well ,,, I did it and I threw it to a lawyer,

G MacDonald dice:

I have been paying for my children's clothes, vacations, money, etc. for years, I pay 320 direct and they take 170 direct from my salary, now they want 1150 a month!! Which means I can't pay my bills let alone live, CSA is a joke by an organization that targets men to raise billions for the government.

neil dice:

Greedy, predatory bitches don't want to help you ruin yourself.

Aisha dice:

Maybe they should have stayed together to raise the children. I'm so glad there's child support that during our thirteen years of marriage, your ex never gave me a dime from the kids. I can wait until I get child support.

fuck bitches dice:

Women who put up with this shit are ridiculous shit. Lazy bitches, what happens when you catch a guy lying to you about birth control? and why he can't have a say on abortion, but you can have a say on how he spends the money he earns. Fuck you and your kids, men don't give a fuck, you treat us like working meat. You shouldn't have power over any man, I bet if you didn't you wouldn't put yourself in the situations you complain about, so fuck you bitches